This week marks 5 years Jemarie and I have been married. If we had never meet, there would have not been a Buzzed Badger. Six years ago I was in a dark place… matter of fact, it will be hard to find a picture of me with a sincere smile between 2009-2011. We officially met at the Martini Bar in Hattiesburg, MS while Jemarie was hosting a comedy show. My friends drug me out and the whole time I was thinking how I needed to go home and finish my sketch of a couch (was pursing an interior design undergraduate degree). Until this lady sat down with me. She’s so funny!!! Actually I think she is more funny one on one. Anyway. Joy, silliness, and love pours out this lady. For our anniversary she decided to give comedy another shot. On Wednesday, August 9th, she will be at an Open Mic at Loonees Comedy Show (COS, Academy). Really excited for her to share her laughs with everyone.
Her sense of humor got me out of my dark space and afforded me the confidence to “do me.” Literally. She makes fun of me a lot, ensuring I better feel pretty darn good about what I am doing and she holds me accountable at the same time. Jemarie has pushed me into living openly with scares and all, because she has made me feel beautiful on the account of them. Her love have led me to being my own kind of Honey Badger…If you never seen the youtube video about a Honey Badger … Um. You need to. It is NSFW, so keep that in mind when you watch it. What I got out of it was the Honey Badger is one resilient MF. That is where I got the named Buzzed Badger from. I have been drinking coffee since I was a little girl, starting with coffee milk advancing to only drinking black in public. Then I like to believe I have the same resiliency of a Honey Badger, “do what I wanna.” It may not be the most popular or wise decisions, but I go forward with the support of Jemarie and her making fun along the way. Come check her out this Wednesday. You will not be disappointed.
Two strong, empowered women are performing this week. I have worked with Rosenna in a few bi-weekly talks at the Buzzed Badger. We have talked about everything from capital of relationships to the feminist movement to self-defense. Have not had the pleasure to meet Cassy in person, but I feel like I know her through her wonderful poetry. Come join us, FREE, on Friday at 11AM at the Buzzed Badger to hear her live.
Rosenna Bakari, aka Rouge Scholar, will be preforming at Spice Island Grill on Tuesday, Aug. 2nd. Every woman of every race, class, sexual orientation and religion can relate to the societal pressure to take care of men and be subservient to them. Physical violence, sexual violation and emotional intimidation are far too familiar to women. Dr. Bakari explores the oppressive prevalence of male harm toward females in a prolific, four-part, critical poem theory. Part one reinterprets the biblical account of original sin and explains the evolution of male dominance. Part two identifies the characteristics of dominant males and the harm they cause females, directly and indirectly. Part three addresses well-meaning men who benefit from the male-dominance paradigm. Part four speaks hope and empowerment to women of the world…you may never look at the world the same.
Amazing artist from Colorado. Cassy has written poetry since the 5th grade. Sometimes she wrties for days, sometimes she needs a break. Cassy loved it and it was the dearest aspect of her childhood. Now as an adult, writing poems are the reflection of life or a response to poems she has read.
Cassy will be at the Buzzed Badger Friday, Aug. 4th at 11AM. Join us for a free brewed coffee or tea.
The Buzzed Badger has an oven now. Excited is an understatement. So far have not baked too much of a variety: sugar cookies, blueberry muffins, coffee cake, and mexican brownies (brownies with cayenne and cinnamon). My cookie game is off, WAYYYYYYYY off. For a full disclosure, I am not a baker. I can slay in the kitchen and give you a wonderful meal from start to finish, but if I bake something….be worried. Its a personal thing, love to touch and see meals from the beginning until it hits your plate. It might be a while before I bake cookies again. Cookies will not beat me.
Every week, I try out a new recipe that might do well in the shop. The coffee cake and blueberry muffins will be in permanent rotation. Presentation of these two will be my next side project. Last week, the blueberry muffin was perfected with the yummy walnut crumbs. Life was given. Matter fact they were so good, I just wanted to share them and gave them to customers that sat and drank coffee with me. Next week will be scone week. I am on the prowl for an awesome scone recipe – If you have one, please send it to me on Facebook Message or to email@example.com. I will also take suggestions, making plain brownies just for one of my regular customers. You welc.
Great talk. Honestly I thought it would be a little too heavy, even though it is a topic that needS to be discussed with every female and male hitting puberty. Before the meeting started off, I introduced a Netflix documentary, Ascent of Women…. then Rosenna and her intern asked “What about BEFORE then….????” The conversation after: MIND BLOWN, I AM ENLIGHTENED.
Rules to sexual consent is simple. Only 4 steps and they apply to all genders.
Able to give consent: No brainer. All people must be awake and aware what’s happening. If you haven’t seen the Tea Consent Video, this breaks it down. Watch it.
Consent to initiate: This one is awkward. But awkward and safe is far better than not. Ask for permission before initiating touch/sex or if you are comfortable before the person asks… let them know it is okay.
Consent for duration of contact: You can stop at anytime. If you change your mind mid-way through or become uncomfortable, it is okay to give a hard no and redirect what is happening. Only you are in charge of your body.
Consent for protection: If you cannot have a conversation about protection and contraception, then you are not ready. In addition, when you change your protection and contraception choices…YOU NEED TO INFORM YOUR PARTNER. As adults you need to be able to openly talk about sex with your partner, if you can’t…there is a problem.
No one following all these rules end up violating a person unknowingly. Stay safe.
Next meeting is Wednesday, June 14 at 1:30PM-3:00PM. We will be discussing Diversifying the Feminist Movement with Rosenna Bakari. Exciting topic. You also can see Dr. Bakari’s Part 1-3 of her 5 part poem Original Sin on Youtube.
On. The. Money. This ladies are nothing short of that. We had a great talk about the psychology of money and how we earn/spend our dollars. All of us are in different stages of our career and successful in our own definition we set for ourselves.
Most of us are entrepreneurs and took the leap of starting a business. It was therapeutic to talk about the uncertainty of it all and how the initial setup is ultimately spending money and NOT making money. However the high when you see your efforts pay off is unmeasurable. In our discussion, we talked about not always getting paid with money. Many times you are paid in connections to other people, invitations to events, or the freedom.
One of the ladies is changing her career path, she has been practicing her business for many years. She moved out to Colorado and decided – Hey, I want to put that down and do something different. It was energizing seeing someone evolve right in front of you. We discussed what to do when you are ready to change your path and how to reinvent yourself. She left that day with a new career and a new spring in her step. That alone made the day triumphant.
HOWEVER, it did not stop there. A successful lady, who is not an entrepreneur, gave us atta-girls for our fearlessness in starting a business. She expressed that not everyone are entrepreneurs in spirit and it is still possible to live your life’s mission without being a business owner. This woman is a living testimony to that truth. If you are ambitious and recognize opportunities as they present themselves, you can do what you are passionate about. Her career has granted her the freedom to help people, create community, and work with people who are able to make a difference in our everyday lives.
Very grateful for the time I get to spend with these ladies. Unsure what the American Dream is, however I know what’s mine. We are living ours truly…
Living the Dream. Define your own.
Next Between Meals: May 24 – What is sexual consent? Excellent meeting for dating individuals. You think you know, but you don’t. The only way to assure that you are practicing sexual consent is to know the rules. Lead by Rosenna Bakari, Author/Psy.
Reflecting over last Wednesday’s Between Meals Chat, Fitness Focus. Rosenna Bakari brought up a very easy formula to follow when thinking about fitness. There are 4 easy pillars:
Speed: Yes, being quick is a bonus, but it is more than just being fast. Speed also refers to the ability to recover from a workout, illness, or stressful situation quickly. Being fit is about a whole lifestyle, eating balanced and exercise regularly has to be part of your daily life. Ideally exercise 30 minutes, drink plenty of water, and get in 7 cups of fruits and vegetables a day.
Balance: Mostly overlooked and there are not very many activities one can do to improve balance. The best thing is yoga and improved posture. Stream some examples and go for it at home.
Endurance: This equals how long you can do something. Nutrition, sleep, and mental space plays a large portion on how good you feel doing an activity. You have the option to take supplements like pre-workout drinks. Ideally, though, you will want to be able to have the endurance without a chemically induced drive.
Strength: Becoming strong gives you an effortless confidence. Especially women who are around men when working out will have an increase comfort in having difficult conversations. Think about fitness differently. The best take away is, if you can push, pull, lift, and lower your own weight – you are in a good place.
Remember your size does not matter. The most healthy life is filled with confidence, mobility, and sanity. Now, that’s sexy. 😉 Working out is self-care.
Attend our next Wednesday Between Meals: On the Money on May 10th with Rosenna Bakari, Author/Psychologist. We will talk about the way you think about money and how to add value to your life. Some people chase money, because they are too scared to chase their dream.
We had two great meet ups over the last month. The first meeting was about Human Capital: How to utilize people in our lives for personal growth. Rosenna Bakari, published author and psychologist, enlightened the ladies that joined in on the April 12th about actively engaging with the people around us. If you live your life with purpose, due to the law of attraction, you will start gathering friends/acquaintances they live for their purpose.
Question for thought:
Would you rather have 100 pennies or one dollar?
The answer is pretty easy, you rather carry the $1 bill, because it is lighter and have more value per unit. People can add (or take away) value to your life and you have to think about how they add to your personal growth. When you start living with a purpose, the “pennies” start falling off and you start picking up more “dollar bills”.
Then finally name your 5 closest friends and ask yourself: